An open letter to myself because I feel as each year goes by and you get older, sometimes you need to remind yourself of who you are and where you’re going. Hopefully, it will also inspire, motivate and trigger others.
First off be grateful and thankful that you’re able to see another year of life. There are so many people that don’t get to see their birthdays or celebrate their birthdays. It’s important to pray everyday, and to especially pray on your birthday, because seeing another year of life is a gift. Nonetheless, I always find myself daydreaming and staring into space, thinking about life. At this point, i’m in the early stages of my adulthood and it’s still a lot I have to learn, more healing I need to do, goals to accomplish ect. Here are some recent things that have crossed my mind that I wanted to share:
DON’T SETTLE. No matter where life takes you, please don’t be one of them… one of those people that settle. It’s so many people (and I’ve seen a lot of people) that settle with being mediocre because it’s the easier route and because society say’s so, and you know, society tends to dictate how we should live our lives. Folks are okay with taking what they can get in relationships, marriages, jobs, pay, friendships ect. DO NOT SET YOURSELF UP FOR THE BARE MINIMUM (especially as a black woman, because mediocracy will be presented, you just have to know better) follow your heart and intuition when it comes to life. If not you’ll end up a troll, jealous, a hater, bitter and resentful like a lot of these people out here.
STOP WASTING TIME. Use your free time to accomplish important goals and do things for the betterment of you. For example, if you work a nine to five job, come home and use the rest of the day to get things done for your side business or a hobby that will make you money. Use every ounce of time to build and create. Remember “Time is the most valuable thing a person can spend. It is infinite and it cannot be gotten back. Use it wisely.”
SURROUND YOURSELF, WITH GOOD POSITIVE PEOPLE ONLY. I cannot stress this enough, as you get older you realize it’s not about the quantity of friends, but the quality of them. If I could go back in time there would be so many people I would BOLDLY IGNORE and keep it pushing because turns out, they were awful people that I had no business hanging around. Only converse with people with have morals, values, want to be something in life, genuinely want to see you win, have the same interest as you, motivate you and vice versa. Some people are weird bro, smiling in your face and inviting you to hang out while all along stabbing you in the back, like just don’t talk to me if that’s the case?
TRULY LOVE YOURSELF AND DRIP IN CONFIDENCE. This is like the number one thing you must master as you get older (especially being a woman of color, because some ashy opinionated human being will always have something to say about you). We live in a world where people don’t want you to love who you are, so they bash you and talk about you, to point where you start to question/change yourself. This is the one thing I will absolutely teach my kids at birth, so they can grow up with the mindset of “I am all of that and a bag of chips” and actually believe it well into their adulthood. Also, don’t beat yourself up, loving yourself is a learning process, and when you go through things, learn from it and bounce back like never before.
Lastly, FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE’S PATH/SUCCESS and don’t worry about what they got going on over there with others, that is none of your business. You belong to the Universe/God, your life’s plan is awaiting you and I might not how it’s going to be yet, but I have a feeling it’s going to be a good life. So use this time to prepare yourself… for the goddess that’s about to unleash.
With that being said, welcome to your ‘Jordan Year’ Jade… may it be filled with love, happiness, money, genuine people, laughs, knowledge, new opportunities to grow, and leaving the past far behind you.
Make it do what it do boo💰